Unfortunately in life to go through growth we must first go through some difficulty. If we never go through any difficulty or quit whenever things get tough we remain the same. This is the same in our faith in God.
If we go through trials but we first run to the internet, a self help book which is not what the Bible is, or friends and family who are not in the faith we are heading the wrong direction!
It is through these trials that our roots grow deep in God. The Bible says that God tries the heart in Proverbs 17:3 Fire tests the purity of silver and gold, but the LORD tests the heart. He wants to know what you will do when the tough times come. Can He trust you? Will you fall away? Philippians 4:5-7 Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
We are to glory in our trials (Romans 5:3) We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they help us develop endurance. In these we develop the fruit of the Spirit. Galatians 5:22-23
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God wants to use you but are you willing to go through the process He has for you to get there?